Vina Onstead's articles
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The Dangerous & Harmful Effects of Obsessive Modesty Practices Among LDS Youth
I want to reveal a poisonous issue within the culture of our church, one that causes shame and judgment to come down upon those who encounter life struggles and the ensuing guilt felt when we as individuals don’t measure up to the standards. We have adopted, as a church, very strict modesty standards for girls…not guys. I’m all about modesty, but in our culture we have left Crazy Town on this issue and headed straight for Absolutely Ridiculous-ville. In fact, I’m going to flat out say that this standard is more than just unrealistic. It has actually become harmful, even dangerous in many ways, including teaching our children to judge…
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Speaking Up for Those Who Suffer in Silence: Calling Out the Culture that is Destroying a Beautiful Religion
Chapter One: We Have A Christ Problem – A Lack Thereof I am a Mormon. I was born into this beautiful religion. And at no time will I debate my religion with anyone who is simply trying to bash it, disprove it, or make fun of it in any way. My religion saved my life, literally, so I am very protective of it. Respect that, please, as I respect your beliefs. However, religion is completely different from culture when it comes to religious communities. Most religions have a culture that was formed from the rules and guidelines you’re asked to live by as a member, and many outside forces warp…